As I reviewed on Friday, In Drive: The Surprising Truth About What Motivates Us, Daniel Pink argues that motivation and satisfaction center on having these three operators in our lives:
- Autonomy: the ability to have at least some self-direction.
- Mastery: the ability to improve ourselves in a field or skill.
- Purpose: the ability to contribute to something bigger than ourselves.
It turns out that even science is now demonstrating that people are not purely economically motivated, yet as Pink puts it, “there’s a gap between what science knows and what business [or school or family] does.”
The psychological and sociological discussion of the book is interesting, but what struck me was how applicable it was to childrearing and homeschooling. How do we treat our children? What incentives do we expect ourselves and our children to respond to?
This next week, I want to look at each of the three factors Pink develops and apply them to homeschooling and housework, to our children and ourselves.
Types of Motivation
In Drive, Pink contrasts two forms of motivation.
- Extrinsic Motivation: Doing something because of imposed rewards (that is, not natural consequences) you will receive for doing so.
Intrinsic Motivation: Doing something because of the satisfaction, delight, or natural consequences of doing so.
Extrinsic Motivators in the Home & Homeschool
So, what are some concrete examples of extrinsic motivation in homeschooling? Oh, how they abound! If you follow any homeschooling boards on Pinterest, you’ve probably seen a lot of creative ideas for extrinsic reward systems.
These are just a few, and they all are based on the same principle: In order to learn to behave, children need positive reinforcement. But not just any positive reinforcement. They need prizes. They need something that appeals to their appetites. Appetites, however, grow when fed.
Such reward systems teach children to be little mercenaries, looking out to see if they’ll get their credit. And, as Jesus said, such have already received their reward. These systems, harmless though they might seem, train children to do good in order to be seen by men. They learn to do good in order to get something for themselves rather than because it is right.
These systems are totally modern, coming in with industrialization, when popular secularized psychology began teaching that people are best treated as cogs in the machine rather than as eternal souls. I know that is a harsh and extreme statement, but rewarding virtue with cash, marbles, sticks, tickets, or other superficial prize is treating a child as if he were a hamster rather than a soul made in the divine image.
Moreover, we even treat ourselves this way. How many articles or books have you read that suggest that to motivate yourself to clean house or lose weight, you pick a reward to give yourself when you accomplish your goal. It is the same principle, only you are in the difficult position of being both authority and slave at the same time, which is why it rarely works.
If our goal is to train our children for life as mature adults and for eternity, then our methods and not just the short-term results matter. Let us not choose methods that fulfill only the goal of crowd management and outward conformity, but be willing to put in the time, effort, and thought required to do the right thing for the right reason.
Discovering What Motivates
- Review: Drive: The Surprising Truth About What Motivates Us
- How Not to Motivate: Extrinsic Rewards
- Motivating without Stickers: Intrinsic Motivation
- Finding Motivation: Autonomy in [Home] School and [House] Work
- Finding Motivation: Mastery in [Home] School and [House] Work
- Finding Motivation: Purpose in [Home] School and [House] Work