Organize your attitude #25
Grumpy babies go to bed.
I learned that little catch phrase from a friend of mine and have used it so much that I’m sure my own children think that I invented it.
One thing motherhood teaches us is that we are not so different from our children. We have the same inclinations and the same attitudes; we’ve just learned to mask them better and in more socially appropriate ways.
Sometimes we just need to go to bed, too.
I’ll be honest. The other day I had a terrible, horrible, no good, very bad day. My attitude was crummy and all I could see anywhere I looked was messes and messing up. I tried getting steps. I tried taking a little break and “napping.” I tried ice water. I tried coffee. My husband prayed for me. I’d feel better for a moment and then the very next thing would trip me up again.
I wanted to be up after the kids were all in bed and the house was quiet. I had things I wanted to get done. But clearly, what I actually needed was simply sleep.
I went to bed at 7:30pm and I was asleep around 8. I woke up with my alarm at 5am and actually felt like getting out of bed! It had been the right choice.
Sleeping is letting go. Going to bed is admitting this day is over and there’s no getting it back or making it better. Sleeping is restorative and often what our minds and bodies are craving when they start shutting down.
I didn’t need a good book. I didn’t need a mindless movie. I didn’t need a glass of wine or chocolate or potato chips – even though those are all the things I thought might make the perfect end of the day. Simple, honest-to-goodness sleep was the solution, after asking each person’s forgiveness for being a bear that day.
It is a punishment to be sent to your room to stew on your grievances – a punishment that makes things worse instead of better. Bitterness grows in mulling over things with a bad attitude. But going to bed is one way to send that bad attitude packing and shut it off, letting your body and mind recover and renew.
Maybe it takes a Tylenol PM or a low-dose melatonin, maybe you’re really so tired you don’t need a thing – but when you just can’t find any capacity for handling life, go to bed, get some sleep, and pray about it in the morning. Joy comes in the morning. Sleep helps.