Keep realistic expectations.

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How to organize your attitude #2

A potent attitude poison is unrealistic expectations.

When we make a to-do list full of our own pet projects when our time is actually taken up with our children and their needs, we’re going to be grumpy and feel our children are getting in the way. Instead, we need to put them on our to-do lists and make sure we meet their needs before we add more in.

When we think that we can keep the house neat and clean while we’re pregnant and homeschooling, we’re setting ourselves up for frustration on top of our exhaustion.


SO051: Realistic Expectations


When we think we can leave the house in under five minutes when we have five children who rarely know where their socks and shoes and coats are, we make ourselves late and rushed.

What to do?

Learn from experience.

To organize our attitude, we need to keep realistic expectations. When we think that we can keep the house neat and clean while we're pregnant and homeschooling, we're setting ourselves up for frustration on top of our exhaustion.

We only know what expectations are realistic when we evaluate our reality.

We have to take that time to look back over that day we were at the end of our rope. What made us feel that way? What could we have done differently? How can we set things up to circumvent the frustration and prepare for what’s most likely to happen?

Perspective is gained only when we take that time to notice and think. Then we can change our plans and our expectations to fit our current circumstances and realities.

Take time for an evening review. Take time for a brain dump.

Don’t let your to-do list become a wish list. Rather, evaluate the time you have available, the energy you have available, and select what is most important to build your home and your family this day.

What will matter most by the end of the day?

Write that down on your list, no matter how silly or insignificant it sounds.

Living life well is not about checking off as many tasks as possible. It’s about knowing and doing the right things.

We can only know what those things are if we pause often and reflect.

Taking time outs to think it through is not wasted time, but profound time. Without it we simply march on through life, doing the most urgent or the most attractive or the most convenient task. However, with pauses for perspective, we gain clarity and peace, even when we don’t have time to follow up on our plan.

With a better idea of where we are and what our purpose is, we make better intuitive in-the-moment choices, even when we can’t open up our planner.


  1. Anne
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    I love your writing and your scopes!! So I inspiring and practical. Thanks for taking the time to share your insight.

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