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Fortiter fideliter forsan feliciter, or Repentance
This motto keyed into a vague notion I’ve been pondering lately: The idea of focusing more on the process, on doing what I should do, and leaving the results, the outcome, to God. The world recommends setting SMART (specific, measurable, actionable, realistic, timely) goals, where the focus is on achieving measurable results. But, doesn’t the Bible focus more on obedience and trust? And aren’t so many of the things we strive for as mothers and home-educators not exactly measurable?
Yes, getting dinner on the table or taking the kids to the dentist could be accomplished as a SMART goal, but these things are small parts of a bigger vision and goal that is not at all measurable, not even all that specific, and much too long-term to be “timely”: raising healthy, happy, godly children.
The motto means “bravely, faithfully, perhaps successfully.” What I love about this motto is the reminder that so often the results are not in our hands. We are called to obey faithfully, but God gives the increase – in His time, in His way – and it often doesn’t look like what we expected. We can’t control how things will work out, but we can control whether or not we obey, right here, right now. We can trust that God will work it all out in the end.
Once you have a full brain dump, you have a clear head, but you also have a notebook full of random bits - some vitally important and some trivial. Now what? Now you process. Before you can process, you need to have a planning system in place so that you can trust you won't lose that vitally important information. In short, you need a reliable calendar, a place for notes that you actually look at, and a habit for working through task lists. Work the Plan walks you through setting up these systems and building the habits of using them if you need further help there. Processing the brain dump will also take multiple sessions over the course of a week or more. It's sort of like you've totally emptied a closet (your brain) and now you have a pile of treasures and junk heaped up in front of you. It's time to sort through it and figure out what you're going to keep and what you're going to throw away. So the best first processing step with your brain dump is to go through with a black pen and delete. Toss the trash. Delete the unrealistic expectations. Cross off the worries. Let go of the outside pressures. Delete whatever you can. If you aren't sure you should delete it or if you just aren't ready to, there's another option. We'll cover that in the next sanity saver segment.
Declutter your head before you declutter anything else: