SC030: Convivial Means Keeping in Fellowship

Season 5: Why Convivial?

Live in harmony with one another. Do not be haughty, but associate with the lowly. Never be wise in your own sight.

Keeping short accounts leaves no room for resentment, no room for bitterness. It also means that even in the midst of argument, I am more careful in how I express myself, or where I let myself go — better to not sin in the first place than have to ask for forgiveness and make it whole and right again. It also means I can express myself openly and honestly and have confidence that we are both striving to reach unity and oneness, and in the ways we fail on our way there, restoration will be sought.

We all fall short; we all need short accounts kept for us.

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Making a Convivial Home: Unrelenting Fellowship

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Simple Sanity Saver: Homeschool Checklists for Kids

Encouraging ownership & independence with our kids often feels like a mysterious process and we don’t know how to go about it. We hope it just happens with age and maturity, but it doesn’t – it’s not a given. It’s a character trait that’s developed over time, but it won’t develop without practice. A checklist is a means of practice – and skills come after a period of deliberate, consistent practice.

If you want your child to grow in independence with his schoolwork, start with a checklist and a daily meeting – one to start the day and one to make sure it’s done. When he wanders off, redirect back to the checklist. When he asks you what’s next, redirect back to the checklist. Make free time or a hobby pursuit contingent upon checklist completion – then he becomes master of his time. The amount of free time will be directly dependent upon his use of his time. There will be hard life lessons along that line, but holding the line and showing him that he has some control over his day will, in the end, grow responsibility and maturity.

Independence only comes along with responsibility and maturity. Focus on responsibility and maturity, and independence comes as a bonus – for you both.

Along those lines, keep in mind that independence will start developing in the double-digits. You might give your seven or nine year old a checklist – I do – but they are in the hand-holding phase. I don’t expect them to work independently with that checklist; they are only learning, by my pointing referring back to it with them, where to go to find what needs to be done next and what “done” looks like. Baby step elementary kids into responsibility with a checklist, but don’t expect it to bloom until middle school – and trying to force the bloom will not result in a healthy plant.

Remember, if we want them to be responsible, so must we be.

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  1. […] SO030: Convivial Means Keeping in Fellowship […]

  2. Jessie
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    I am adopting you as my spiritual big sister. We might be the same age, or you might even be younger. I don’t care. I enjoy your thoughts.

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