Weeks have passed since the holidays which were a fun break but also exhausting and a lot of work. Then we jump into January with all the energy and good intentions we can muster. It’s no wonder February finds us dull and feeling doomed. February is the time we need to be deliberate with our thoughts, because it’s easy to have them spiral down into lethargy if not worse. So this month we’re focusing on mindset. Think of it like your mega dose of vitamin C and B12. Remind yourself of truth, reject thoughts that are false, and practice turning to gratitude as your habitual response.
The podcast this month will be all about how to do just that.
This episode is an excerpt from a recent mentoring session that I host weekly inside Simply Convivial Continuing Education. Our topic was mindset habits and how even our thoughts and responses can be habitual – both good and bad. So what we know about habits breaking and habit building applies even to our mindset, even to our attitude.
We need to break out of bad attitude ruts and form some new and intentional ruts in our brains.
Let’s dig in.
The goal of organization and planning efforts is not to be in control or look put together. The goal is to be equipped and ready to respond obediently to God in the moment, as He sends needs our way.
Many of our mindset and emotional responses are habitual. We’ve repeated them so many times that they have worn a path in our brains – literally. That explains why it’s so hard to overcome them and replace them, but it also shows us that the way to improve our response habits is simple, deliberate, continual practice.
The good news: We’ll have lots of opportunities for that practice.
Clear out your attitude by starting with a brain dump.
Dump all those swirling thoughts out of your head.
Yes, simply writing it all down will help to
- Reduce stress by getting your thoughts onto paper
- Reduce frustration by assigning homes to stuff, tangible & intangible
- Reduce anxiety by knowing what you have on your plate
Declutter your head.
Did you assume you’d be a more organized mother and homemaker than you are? Did you think it’d be easier than it turned out to be?
I’m right there with you. I hear from women all the time who say that before kids, they were so organized and they don’t know why they can’t figure it out. Now with life with kids, I tell you, the problem isn’t with the kids or your home. It’s with your mindset and your expectations. Family life is different from project based work, and homemaking is different from a job with a boss on a schedule. Children need attention and response in the moment. Children’s needs cannot be predicted and planned only addressed as needed. That takes a different skill set. Homemaking requires us to be self directed, self managed and self motivated, a different skill set than being a good employee at simply convivial, continuing education. We learn and practice the skill sets that this family life at home requires, all while remembering that the people are the point and our work is a calling and a service given to us by God. When we practice. In this mindset, we not only improve our skill, we also find contentment and satisfaction even when things don’t go our way.
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