What I learned from being homeschooled

I wasn’t allowed to ride my bike. Back in the 80s, homeschooling was not hip. Homeschooling was not even a category anyone but a few families who listened to Focus on the Family had in their heads. So riding my bike during school hours was not ok – I’d be stopped as a truant for sure. In fact, once I did go ride my bike around the neighborhood at lunch. It was the early 90s, and I was probably wearing … Read More

Sheepdog, Listen to Your Shepherd

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A guest post by Abby Wahl, who, with her husband and kids, runs a sheep ranch. This is part 2 of the “Be a Shepherd, Not a Sheepdog” series. Sometimes we homeschool moms are sheepdogs, nipping at our sheep’s heels; Abby shows us how even sheepdogs can be faithful servants. My Sheep Hear My Voice A good sheepdog listens to his owner. He must wait for instructions, wait until the owner puts him to work. “Way back,” the herder says … Read More

You Need Self-Control, Not Self-Care

The other day as I stared into the empty bottom of my coffee mug, a movie quote jumped to mind: “I don’t want to see the bottom of this glass,” uttered desperately. It’s an early scene in Mask of Zorro, before the drunk vagabond is chosen by the master for a transformation. We’re like the drunk vagabond. We want a transformation. We want a different sort of a life. But we also don’t want to see the bottom of our … Read More

Be a Shepherd, Not a Sheepdog – part 1

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Back in July, we held the first Scholé Sisters retreat with the topic of leadership. During my talk, “Lead with Your Strengths,” I made the analogy of being a shepherd rather than a sheepdog. The shepherd and the sheepdog both have a similar goal: to take the sheep from here to there. But they do so in very different ways. Whereas the shepherd guides and calls and directs with inherent authority yet also with a gentleness that understands the sheep’s … Read More

5 Myths about Teaching from Rest

Rest. You know you need it. What do you picture, when you think of yourself resting? Walks on a beach? A nap? Curling up with tea and a novel? These are lovely respites that we enjoy, but these images or memories also end up confusing us when rest is used in other contexts. Turns out, there are other kinds of rest – and we need all the kinds, at appropriate times. Picture yourself teaching from rest. What do you see … Read More

What Every Homeschool Mom Needs to Know

When homeschool moms talk shop, there’s a topic that is not politic or polite to bring up. There’s a secret that some moms are afraid to bring up and others don’t yet know. We need to talk about it. We need to own it. When homeschool moms get together, they chat about curriculum, schedules, checklists, books, methods – all necessary details, but there’s something missing. So, let’s be honest and get this one out in the open. The truth will … Read More

Our job is to feed people.

It’s so easy to feel worn down by our work in the home. The work is always needing to be done again, over and over, day after day. Won’t it ever stop?
 Do you want it to? Of course not. Not really. To wish it all to stop is a death wish – and nowhere is that more clearly seen than in our most basic of tasks – feeding people. What happens when people don’t eat? They die. Feeding people … Read More

Fill your mind with truth.

Organize your attitude #47 Our minds are busy places. We are constantly noticing needs, evaluating behavior, noting things to be done, and thinking things through. On top of that, we listen to children’s chatter, keep up with phone notifications, and maybe even top it off with a podcast in the background. Our days are not still and silent. They are humming with thoughts, conversations, and noise. But most of it really is just noise, even those thoughts racing through our … Read More

Have a good cry.

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Organize your attitude #40 To organize our attitudes does not mean to “buck up,” “get over it,” or “plaster on a smile.” Organizing our attitudes is not positive-thinking changing reality. Organizing our attitude is recognizing that our perception of reality is an interpretation, and double-checking that our interpretation is correct. If we’re getting cranky because of the way we see things, we’re not seeing things correctly. No, there’s not always a way to spin our view so that things are … Read More

Build your house.

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Organize Your Attitude #39 The wisest of women builds her house, but folly with her own hands tears it down. – Proverbs 14:1 Our words build or tear down – there is no neutral. And what do they build up or tear down? Our own homes, our own families. Every word we say, every look we give, communicates to our children and gives them identity – whether good or bad. We are their mothers. Even while arguing and complaining, they are … Read More

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