Escapist Planning, and how to make plans that aren’t

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You have done it. I know I have – and too often still do. Life is not going as planned, so we break out the notepad and start a new plan. The new plan is not a way to faithfully respond to our current reality, but rather a way to escape into a pretend future reality where our plans will work out. Turns out we ate all the fudge scraps while making a dessert plate. Clearly time to make a … Read More

For moms, SMART goals aren’t. Let’s make REAL goals.

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SMART goals is a common thing you’ll see, especially this time of year, in business and productivity circles. SMART is an acronym describing the characteristics of goals that will, supposedly, work: specific, measurable, attainable, relevant, time-bound. The problem with SMART goals for moms is that we have less control over our situations and circumstances than we’d like to think. SMART goals assume that level of control we wish we had, so when we set goals like that, we end up … Read More

When You Need to Walk Away

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“Step away from the chocolate.” I understand needing to step back from things in life. The problem is that often what I should step away from isn’t what I’m supposed to step away from. After a rough day or a rough week, I start to think about the possibility of spending hours at a coffee shop alone with my laptop or a book. I think about taking a day trip all by myself. I’ve done both these things legitimately and … Read More

Made to tend

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Entropy is real. We can clean and organize all day long, but we can’t clean and organize our way into a static, finally-done state. Sorry to be the bearer of bad news. Except that it isn’t bad news. God made a world that needed tending, even before the fall. It’s harder and comes with frustration now, but tending and keeping is one thing we were created for. It’s not a punishment. Tend, v. care for or look after; give one’s … Read More

The Lost Tools of Homemaking

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This summer I was browsing through CiRCE’s writing program, The Lost Tools of Writing, as I built out my plan for my own lit and writing class. I don’t use the curriculum, but I did skim it for ideas. 
And, ideas, it turns out, are what it emphasizes (not surprising, if you know CiRCE). Ideas are the real tools of writing, more than grammar or outlining. Without ideas, there cannot be good nor clear writing. And the same is true … Read More

Life Management Tips from Simplified Organization Members

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It’s hard to say. Does life slow down as we roll into the holidays because school is lighter or off and Christmas music is playing or is it more of a hubbub because of all the holiday extras? Whether it’s because now we have some more head space to think about just what our problems have been this school year or because with the holiday extras we realize our need for better organization, there’s no denying the phenomenon: January is … Read More

Tradition and Simplicity

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There were five of us- three wide-eyed girls and two moms- sisters-in-law bound by heart – waiting with bated breath. We were crowded together in the kitchen while the men- my dad, uncle, and older cousin, caught up over apple cider, crackers, and cheese in the living room. My fully Italian Aunt, her shiny black curls pulled back neatly, her apron tied and smoothed primly, was about to unmold the layered Thanksgiving jello. I don’t remember the first year. No, … Read More

Troubleshoot Your Goals: Motives and Habits

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We’re coming up on December, and it will seem inevitable: We must examine how the year went, how we’ve done, how far we’ve come. Most of us will be disappointed. I know I will be. I will see my list of goals, of things I had wanted to do in 2019, and they will not all be crossed off. Some (like weight loss, cough) will have seen no progress. I did not make these goals and then forget them, hoping … Read More

How to Plan with Vocation in Mind

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You said yes and now you regret it. If only there were a way to be able to filter requests for your time so that you didn’t feel guilty for saying no or feel overwhelmed because you said yes. Instead, we often teeter-totter our approach. A bout of overcommitment leads us to cut way back – perhaps cutting too much, not investing our time and energy but rather hoarding it. We don’t want to be spread too thin, but we … Read More

Hey, slob. You might be a perfectionist.

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It’s paralyzing. Perfectionism. I used to think I was not a perfectionist, because nothing I did was perfect. I was a slob, so how could I be a perfectionist? Then one time I was visiting with my mom, who mentioned that my youngest sister was a perfectionist – like I was. I was bewildered by this casual accusation. Me? A perfectionist? Isn’t that reserved for people who can draw true circles and sew in straight lines and insist on doing … Read More

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