What hospitality taught me about homemaking

Pull out the glasses, set the table, time to get ready for company. Ever noticed that funny feeling where you turn on a different persona, a different ability to handle life, at least momentarily, when you open the door or answer the phone? It shows us our actual ability to exhibit self-control. Too often, our tone and tactics with our kids do not. When we jump on them, pester and harp, then switch it off immediately if someone walks in … Read More

It takes work to rest.

I remember being so weary, so tired. There was so much to do. So much to do, in fact, that it seemed a monumental task just to decide what to do. My fatigue was compounded by the fact that most of my “so much to do” was made of small, menial, basic tasks. There were dishes in the sink, crumbs on the floor, laundry everywhere. There were meals to make, which would mean more kitchen clean-up and more dishes – … Read More

What do I do when my kid complains?

It will happen. “I hate this book!”

 “Do we have to do Morning Time?” “There’s no point in learning algebra!” When it happens, you have not failed. Pick up your shield of imperviousness, homeschool mama; these complaints are not about you. They are not even about what you are studying. They are growing pains. Learning is growing, and when it’s happening, there are times it is uncomfortable, difficult, or tense. Of course, that doesn’t make it ok. Truth: Complaining, grumbling, … Read More

What a marriage book taught me about parenting teens

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I picked up John Gottman’s The Seven Principles of Making Marriage Work after years of curiosity. I had heard about his “love lab” several times over the years, first in a Malcolm Gladwell book, and I was intrigued with the notion that he claimed to be able to predict divorce with surprising accuracy after a few minutes’ observation. Now, I’m not concerned about my own marriage, but I have seen divorces happen and wondered, “When did the slide begin? Did … Read More

What Is Character? and How to Build It.

Character is one of those words we toss around often. Too often, we do so without a clear understanding of what it is. We say we care about character, perhaps even homeschool for the purpose of shaping our children’s character, but what exactly does that mean and how exactly do we go about such a task? The dictionary defines character as: Suddenly, we are taken aback. 
Wait? 

Mental qualities are a part of character? Our character is not simply our … Read More

Self-Care Mistakes, and how service solves them

by Abby Wahl The idea of self-care seems to be everywhere in our current culture, proclaiming that unless we are intentional about taking time for ourselves, it won’t happen. We are lead to believe that withholding self-care will have disastrous consequences. These consequences will supposedly affect not only our physical and mental well-being, but also our identity itself, causing strain or damage to our relationships. I have often heard the oxygen mask metaphor used as an example: first put your … Read More

How to Focus on Truth in a Homeschool Day

It’s easy for a homeschool day to go off the rails. As must as we would like to blame the toddler or the teen, usually that derailing starts in our own heads, in our own hearts, as the homeschool mom. Our mood, our demeanor, our responses, make or break the atmosphere of our homeschool. And so our thoughts and our emotions matter. Do we control them or do they control us? When our moods and minds are being swayed by … Read More

How to organize your attitude without faking

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I use the tagline “organize your attitude” – but what does that mean? Is your attitude something you can actually change? Does it mean faking a smile or pretending what went wrong was actually ok? There isn’t faking involved, but there is humility and repentance. Yes, you can actually change your attitude by deliberately and intentionally changing your thoughts – that’s something we have a responsibility to do. When what we feel or think does not align with God’s revealed … Read More

What I learned from being homeschooled

I wasn’t allowed to ride my bike. Back in the 80s, homeschooling was not hip. Homeschooling was not even a category anyone but a few families who listened to Focus on the Family had in their heads. So riding my bike during school hours was not ok – I’d be stopped as a truant for sure. In fact, once I did go ride my bike around the neighborhood at lunch. It was the early 90s, and I was probably wearing … Read More

Sheepdog, Listen to Your Shepherd

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A guest post by Abby Wahl, who, with her husband and kids, runs a sheep ranch. This is part 2 of the “Be a Shepherd, Not a Sheepdog” series. Sometimes we homeschool moms are sheepdogs, nipping at our sheep’s heels; Abby shows us how even sheepdogs can be faithful servants. My Sheep Hear My Voice A good sheepdog listens to his owner. He must wait for instructions, wait until the owner puts him to work. “Way back,” the herder says … Read More

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