Fill your mind with truth.

Want to know how to organize your life? It begins with your attitude. Organize your attitude #47 Our minds are busy places. We are constantly noticing needs, evaluating behavior, noting things to be done, and thinking things through. On top of that, we listen to children’s chatter, keep up with phone notifications, and maybe even top it off with a podcast in the background. Our days are not still and silent. They are humming with thoughts, conversations, and noise. But … Read More

Share the load.

Organize your attitude #46 “No, I’ll do it.” We often associate these words with two-year-olds, eager to enter the larger world and assert their independence. However, too often mothers are the ones saying it – perhaps not in so many words, but by their actions. Would you rather do it yourself? #089: Why we need friends Of course we can do things better and faster than our children, but they need to gain experience by helping out. They need to … Read More

Convivial: Because Mom Is the Home Atmosphere

It was about 5 years ago now that I deleted my old blog and started over from scratch, choosing the name Convivial Home for my new effort. A real estate agent promptly offered me a large sum for that domain, so I sold it and switched my name to Simply Convivial. I did not want to let go of the word convivial – though perhaps it is a more unusual word than I realized. Convivial has been a stake-in-the-sand word … Read More

Take a photo.

Organize your attitude #44 In this series we’ve been looking at short and simple actions that can help us recover our resilience and choose to tell a true story instead of a self-pitying story. One such action might just be to pull out your camera. Taking a photo is pushing the pause button. Sometimes we get so caught up in the nitty gritty details, doing this, cleaning that, nagging here, pestering there, that we completely miss the overall story being … Read More

Read a novel.

Organize your attitude #41 Yes, read a novel. It doesn’t even have to be a Great Book. Just a story. Get out of your own particulars, relate to someone else, and gain perspective. When we read novels, we are able to see the world from another point of view, experience different settings and lifestyles and circumstances, and are better able to see how small circumstances build into a big picture – into a story. Novels are not a waste of … Read More

Have a good cry.

Organize your attitude #40 To organize our attitudes does not mean to “buck up,” “get over it,” or “plaster on a smile.” Organizing our attitudes is not positive-thinking changing reality. Organizing our attitude is recognizing that our perception of reality is an interpretation, and double-checking that our interpretation is correct. If we’re getting cranky because of the way we see things, we’re not seeing things correctly. No, there’s not always a way to spin our view so that things are … Read More

Build your house.

Organize Your Attitude #39 The wisest of women builds her house, but folly with her own hands tears it down. – Proverbs 14:1 Our words build or tear down – there is no neutral. And what do they build up or tear down? Our own homes, our own families. Every word we say, every look we give, communicates to our children and gives them identity – whether good or bad. We are their mothers. Even while arguing and complaining, they are … Read More

Laugh.

Organize Your Attitude #38 You know those days. Those terrible no good days where we just can’t seem to pull ourselves together, even after two (or three) cups of coffee. Sometimes we have to choose the right attitude before we feel it. If we wait for our feelings to lead the way, we’ll be left nursing hurts and holding grudges. We’ll be left with our coffee dregs and headaches, feeling miserable. It’s tough. Feelings are powerful and insensitive to reason. … Read More

My Secret Weapon for Beating a Bad Attitude in our Homeschool

So. It’s February. In our neck of the woods, it’s been a harsher winter. We’ve had inches upon inches of snow, then ice on top of that, when a typical year rarely sees snow that stays on the ground for more than a day or two. The sky is covered in gray, and often so is my head. Because of the cold and the wet, I don’t get the same level of exercise and activity. Worse yet, the kids don’t … Read More

See your doctor.

Organize your attitude #36 My youngest child just turned 4. For the last 13 years, the primary medical attention I have received has been from a midwife. 

Sure, there’s been an occasional urgent care visit, but besides a midwife, I’ve not seen a primary care physician. As I was making routine well-child visits (all overdue) for my children, my husband encouraged me to make one for myself as well. I’m not unwell. I’m not even low-energy. But preventative care is … Read More

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