What hospitality taught me about homemaking

Pull out the glasses, set the table, time to get ready for company. Ever noticed that funny feeling where you turn on a different persona, a different ability to handle life, at least momentarily, when you open the door or answer the phone? It shows us our actual ability to exhibit self-control. Too often, our tone and tactics with our kids do not. When we jump on them, pester and harp, then switch it off immediately if someone walks in … Read More

It takes work to rest.

I remember being so weary, so tired. There was so much to do. So much to do, in fact, that it seemed a monumental task just to decide what to do. My fatigue was compounded by the fact that most of my “so much to do” was made of small, menial, basic tasks. There were dishes in the sink, crumbs on the floor, laundry everywhere. There were meals to make, which would mean more kitchen clean-up and more dishes – … Read More

How to be more organized: 3 tools you must have

Being organized seems like an elusive goal. When do you know if you’ve reached this state of bliss?  For some of us, being organized feels like a moving target. We’re almost there, we think, then something changes and we’ve slid back down onto the mire.  Honestly, I have not arrived at some final destination known as being organized. I know I could always be more organized than I am. Sometimes I am organized. Sometimes I am not.  But rather than … Read More

Accountability through camaraderie & care

If I pop into my husband’s office around 9 in the morning, I do so with as much stealth as I can, blending into the background as I grab my laptop or a book or more lined paper. It’s stand up time, and there he is, standing, listening to his coworkers on video chat explain what they’ve done since yesterday’s stand up and what they will be working on next. It doesn’t take much time, but it keeps the team … Read More

Intrinsic v. Extrinsic Rewards for Moms at Home

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We’ve all felt it. We sip our coffee and stare down at our list. We just don’t wanna. Maybe we just can’t even. Or, perhaps with the coffee we think we can take on that list, but come 10am or noon or 2pm, all the motivation is gone – poof – seemingly for good. What do we do? Give up? Trudge, grudgingly, on? Fuss and whine, whether internally or, worse, externally in the tone we mete out to the kids? … Read More

Self-Care Mistakes, and how service solves them

by Abby Wahl The idea of self-care seems to be everywhere in our current culture, proclaiming that unless we are intentional about taking time for ourselves, it won’t happen. We are lead to believe that withholding self-care will have disastrous consequences. These consequences will supposedly affect not only our physical and mental well-being, but also our identity itself, causing strain or damage to our relationships. I have often heard the oxygen mask metaphor used as an example: first put your … Read More

5 Habits Every Mom Needs to Grow

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We established last week that even moms need to grow. We, as well as our children, are persons and must both feed and exercise our souls, bodies, minds, and hearts. But how? How much time will this take? After all, it’s not like we have a bunch of spare time for various new exercise and study regimens. The time factor is just one reason habits are so effective and compelling. A small habit has an outsized effect for the effort … Read More

Growth Mindset for Moms

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Moms are all about growth. It starts with growing a new little life right inside of our own selves. The growth is in our bellies, and then it’s in our arms. We go through boxes of clothes, changing them out seemingly overnight because growth is so rapid. Our family size grows, gradually, over the years, and we learn to adjust to more needs, more love, more food, more laundry. Life overflows abundantly and we get the front-row seat to the … Read More

You Need Self-Control, Not Self-Care

The other day as I stared into the empty bottom of my coffee mug, a movie quote jumped to mind: “I don’t want to see the bottom of this glass,” uttered desperately. It’s an early scene in Mask of Zorro, before the drunk vagabond is chosen by the master for a transformation. We’re like the drunk vagabond. We want a transformation. We want a different sort of a life. But we also don’t want to see the bottom of our … Read More

How to Declutter Your Mind

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We all know the feeling. Your head is spinning; your mind is in overdrive. You try to multitask, putting out a fire here and remembering something else halfway though. We jump from one task to the next, not always finishing one before starting another. You might call the feeling overwhelm or craziness or even panic. I have a solution: a brain dump. It’s simple, but surprisingly successful at calming internal chatter and chaos. Whether you’ve never tried this practice or … Read More

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