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Organize your attitude #46 “No, I’ll do it.” We often associate these words with two-year-olds, eager to enter the larger world and assert their independence. However, too often mothers are the ones saying it – perhaps not in so many words, but by their actions. Would you rather do it yourself? #089: Why we need friends Of course we can do things better and faster than our children, but they need to gain experience by helping out. They need to … Read More


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Organize Your Attitude #38 You know those days. Those terrible no good days where we just can’t seem to pull ourselves together, even after two (or three) cups of coffee. Sometimes we have to choose the right attitude before we feel it. If we wait for our feelings to lead the way, we’ll be left nursing hurts and holding grudges. We’ll be left with our coffee dregs and headaches, feeling miserable. It’s tough. Feelings are powerful and insensitive to reason. … Read More

From the Archives: Stand & Resist – Simply Convivial

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I was going through some old papers today and found a printed copy of this post I made a few years ago. I thought I’d repost it here, with a few minor editing tweaks. At a recent church bridal shower, a lovely older lady gave a devotional that stuck with me. She read Ephesians 6:10-18. Finally, be strong in the Lord and in the strength of his might. Put on the whole armor of God, that you may be able … Read More

Nerves as raw as meat in a butcher’s window

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Do you know that quote? It’s from My Fair Lady, when, after months of agony, Eliza & Professor Higgins are draped late at night in the library, Higgins still insisting, “The rain in Spain stays mainly in the plain!” Eliza moans, “I can’t! I can’t! I’m so tired. I’m so tired.” #084: When noise rubs nerves raw That’s how I felt yesterday. In fact, that’s how I got to thinking about this quote and scene. I was loading the dishwasher, … Read More

February & March Happy Home Habit: Make Eye Contact and Smile

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In my Habits Project for 2013, I decided on 3 categories of habits: Health, Home, and Happiness. That’s the alliterative version. The more accurate titles would be Health, Organization, and Mothering. I picked the three aspects of my life right now upon which all others are built: my own physical stamina and energy, my ability to keep balls rolling and plates spinning, and my relationships with my children. The effectiveness of any other part of my life is dependent upon … Read More

January’s Happy Habit and Dealing with Perfectionism

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I’ve never thought of myself as a perfectionist. After all, I seem to be physically incapable of following precise instructions or recipes and I am quite haphazard in my housekeeping. How could I be a perfectionist if I can’t stand ironing or if I don’t even fold the laundry? Perhaps, however, the reason I don’t iron or fold the laundry is that I can’t do it perfectly and it doesn’t stay folded or crease-free, so I’m unwilling to do it … Read More

January Habit: Making My Bed

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I’ve written before about making my bed and why it is a goal worth pursuing, two and a half years ago, actually, and while I make my bed occasionally (which is a great improvement upon never, by principle), it is hardly a habit. This is the 7th of the month and I’ve had one week, 7 days, solid, in a row, of making my bed. Improvement. But why start with this habit, particularly under the “organization” category? First, I do … Read More

Dangerous Wives – Simply Convivial

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At the Dangerous Women conference held by the Femina Girls, Bekah Merkle spoke to wives. Dangerous Woman as Wife When the Bible speaks directly to and of wives, it speaks of two things we tend to see as unrelated: submission and fruitfulness. These are the two areas the curse addresses and the two things the world wars against. They are the two things we need to pay close attention to. Submission Submission is not “the husband gets the swing vote … Read More

A Providential C-Section

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Geneva Kate was born November 2, 2012, by unexpected c-section, 24 hours after being admitted to the hospital for an induction at my request (her due date was October 28). Heidelberg Catechism | Lord’s Day 10 Q. What do you understand by the providence of God? A. Providence is the almighty and ever present power of God by which He upholds, as with His hand, heaven and earth and all creatures, and so rules them that leaf and blade, rain … Read More

Establishing Household Habits Series Index

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    Why? (November 2009) I suspect it would have been just as difficult for Elly to not make her bed as it was for me to make my bed. In both cases, it would seem to us that something was not right. In my case, because a jumble of blankets was normal, and a made bed was unfamiliarly neat-looking. Habits, Routines, & Schedules (November 2009) Establishing a routine bestows more emotional energy. Established by Repetition (November 2009) Everyday on … Read More

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