Homeschooling is made for introverts.
So say the extroverts.
Sure, we get to stay home and keep our circle of influence strong and consolidated. In our day-to-day lives we don’t have to conform to a group or put on a show for others.
However, homeschooling means we are constantly at the beck and call of our children’s needs, being at the center of our bustling homes, and living a full and perhaps cluttered life. These aspects wear us introverts down.
But it is precisely because so much of ourselves is poured into our family that we must ensure we have something to pour. Giving takes energy, and introverts regain their energy in very specific ways.
The more we give ourselves the time and activities that build our energy back up, the better we’ll be able to tackle our daily duties with gusto.
So here are five ways we can ensure we’re giving and refilling, appropriately and meaningfully.
1. Find the right kind of refill time.
It’s a mistake to assume that being an introvert means that all we need to refresh ourselves is peace and quiet. All quiet times are not created equal.
Simply being alone is not enough. You need to find activities that resonate with your primary introverted function.
For INFJs & INTJs, this is intuition; they will need uninterrupted thinking time – not simply reading or simply silence, but time to let ideas connect up in their minds.
For ISFJs & ISTJs, sensation is the primary function; they need time to build memories, to information that is meaningful to them, and to learn more details about their areas of interest or a hobby.
Feeling is the primary function for INFP & ISFP types; they will feel refreshed by experiencing a personal connection with nature, an idea, or a person. They look for ideas, experiences, and people to cherish.
INTPs and ISTPs enjoy improvising within an area of expertise, seeing their knowledge come out their fingertips by some kind of creative expression in a meaningful field.
2. Find a close friend to share the journey.
None of us can go it alone, not even introverts. Introverts need friends, too. In fact, they might need them more than extroverts.
Introverts open up and sometimes even act like extroverts when the external setting agrees with their internal position.
When we know another person both understands and cares, we come alive socially – and we all need that. Introverts must hunt for someone who “matches” their thought processes so they can share their best selves.
Just because we’re introverts does not mean we should try to do life alone. It is not good for the homeschooling mother to be alone. Find a conversation-meet, either in real life or online.
3. Reserve time to learn.
Our introverted function is the one that helps us learn and connect with information and experience. Because introvert’s dominant function is the introverted sort, introverts must ensure they reserve time to learn and think.
That doesn’t mean all introverts must read, but it does mean we will feel refreshed and alive when we find a topic, a hobby, a skill to study and gain proficiency in.
INFJs & INTJs need to ensure they have reading or listening time set aside in theoretical, idea-driven works that address deep and meaningful aspects of their life.
ISFJs & ISTJs will want to gather experiences or information that adds to their reserve of knowledge, prioritizing concrete data and details over theories and concepts.
INFPs & ISFPs need to immerse themselves in an experience, whether that’s a nature walk, a fantasy novel, a person-driven history account, or an expressive art.
INTPs and ISTPs enjoy learning through noticing and evaluating patterns from a multitude of inputs.
4. Develop your extroverted function.
Did you know introverts have to extrovert? Did you know it’s good for us to do so, not actually a necessary evil?
When introverts develop their secondary extroverted function, they’ll experience more meaningful, balanced growth. The extroverted function allows introverts to make use of their insights or gather better data for their learning.
INFPs and INTPs use extroverted intuition. This means they love to take in a multitude of inputs, seeing all their is to see, or reading all the books – but then they will narrow down all those sources to the unifying ideas that are most important to them.
ISFPs and ISTPs use extroverted sensing. This means they gather actual sensory information – details that are concrete, visible, tangible. They delight in first-hand, rapidly-changing engagement with the real world.
ISTJs and INTJs use extroverted thinking. This means that they make things happen in line with their carefully thought-out priorities. When they are in charge of a situation or a project, they are fully engaged with their secondary extroverted function.
ISFJs and INFJs use extroverted feeling. This means they are builders of traditions and relationships, fully functioning in their secondary mode when they are creating harmony and personal connections with others.
5. Plan in line with your executive mode.
The third letter in your type is your executive mode – it is how you make decisions. When you plan in line with your executive mode, you’ll be better able to work your plan and create a plan that reflects your actual priorities.
ISTJs & INTJs use the extroverted thinking mode to plan. They know their priorities and craft a plan that will accomplish their goals; with an extroverted thinker, it’s always business, not personal. However, because it is their secondary function, they have to stretch themselves to exercise this mode.
INTP & ISTP’s executive mode is their primary function: introverted thinking. Their logic is the right-brained counterpart to extroverted thinking’s left-brained expression: it is more instinctual and pattern-seeking than pattern-creating. They move forward from their inner goals, but more by feel and gut than by clear strategies. So, it is imperative for these types to keep their attention perpetually on their aims so their “play by ear” actions are rightly aligned.
ISFJ and INFJ’s executive mode is extroverted feeling; because it is their secondary function, they need to be careful to keep their actions aligned to their inner convictions rather than guided by outside pressure, which will be their temptation. If they develop their extroverted feeling, they will have the strength of mind and character to be a mentor, guide, counselor to any they take under their wings.
INFP and ISFP’s executive mode is introverted feeling, which is also their primary function. Sensing patterns and problem-solving by gut-instinct, they make the situation personal and adapt themselves accordingly. They execute through empathy and human-value rather than through systems or logic, often operating with a sense of quest or destiny they can’t express.
When you find yourself feeling weary and frayed, choose a method of refreshment that resonates with your personality type so you can effectively and efficiently prepare yourself for more service.
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