Outsourcing dinner duties

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~ Capturing the context of contentment in everyday life ~

When I was 11, my mom had twins. Already interested in cooking, I eagerly took once-a-week dinner duties. I could make spaghetti, macaroni and cheese (from boxes) with tuna and peas, and hamburger helper. My grandma was an extreme couponer before it was a thing, so she kept our pantry stocked with boxes and mixes, and I appreciated being able to grab something, follow the 3 steps, and put dinner on the table by myself – complete with microwaved frozen mixed vegetables.

I think kids that age want to be useful and contribute in real ways to the family, and what is more useful than feeding people?

round button chicken

Actually, this project first began this summer when an extended-family conversation turned to sending my younger brother off to college and how he was renting an apartment off campus. “You’ll have to send him Simplified Dinners,” commented my mom. I pulled my printed copy off the shelf to let him look through and chatted about how easy the dinners were. He stopped me, “So, saute is like cutting them a certain way?”

Oh. Um. Well. Nevermind. Simplified Dinners is not going to work for you. Simplified Dinners presumes kitchen skills; it is written for busy, harried moms like me who just want to get dinner on the table but don’t want to have to think through everything or read a long discursive recipe. It’s dinner shorthand, but it presumes you know the lingo.

I decided my brother needed a Simplified Simplified Dinners; one that didn’t presume any kitchen experience. I thought I’d get it done to give for Christmas presents, but alas, that was not to be.

Better late than never, though. Now he has his own edition of Simplified Dinners for New Cooks. 12 tools, 12 skills, 10 dinner types that each have three or more variations.


~ Pretty Awesome! ~

kids can cook dinner

And better for me: I plopped a page of my draft in front of my 11 year old and said, “I think you can make dinner all by yourself. Let’s see.” And he did it. And he asked to do it again the next day. So he and his brother tested the clarity of instructions for me, and I refined wording, and our work is nearly complete: Simplified Dinners for New Cooks is nearly ready for publishing.

kids can cook dinner


kids can cook dinner

~ Happy Kids, Happy Mom ~

My 9 & 11 year old boys really are thrilled to be able to be independent in the kitchen, get dinner on the table themselves, and receive all the thanks due to the cook at the table.

Beaming, I would call them.


kids can cook dinner

~ Funny Expressions ~

Hans says he’ll cook dinner as often as I let him. Pretty awesome. How long do you think that enthusiasm will last?

At his age, I cooked Hamburger Helper and Macaroni and Cheese from boxes and zapped frozen vegetables in the microwave. It was a start, but not a start I wanted to have to live through at my own dinner table. We’ve grown up a bit in our taste since that time.

But I think we’ve proven that if you can wield a knife, you can get dinner on the table. Not just any dinner, either, but a real food, from-scratch dinner.


kids can cook dinner

~ Real Dinner ~

They have made pizza from scratch – including the yeast dough, baked bacon with frittata and muffins, salad with homemade salad dressing, creamy chicken pasta, sausage-and-beans, soup, chicken quesadillas, and more. Tonight they are doing homemade pizza again, because that was their favorite.

I am just as excited as my kids. What better way to outsource meals than to the people who need to eat it, too.

They aren’t as excited about outsourcing the mopping or the bathroom-cleaning, but dinner, yes, they’ll take dinner duty anytime.

It’s now available!

Check it out!


5 Responses

  1. Margo, Thrift at Home

    this is awesome! I’m so impressed with the meals AND with the proud faces! My 9-year-old is starting to get more independent in the kitchen – she’s motivated by the fact that I’m having a baby in May, so I’ve been very clear about how much help she can be. Is this a cookbook that you’re going to share, or is it just for family? I sometimes write out recipes for the 9-year-old, but if you have already done that, I’d love to take a peek :)

    • Mystie Winckler

      Yes, I’m hoping to have it available by next week! If you sign up there at the bottom of the post, you’ll get a notification as soon as it is ready. :)

  2. Sarah

    So fun that your boys are cooking on their own (and having fun with it!). It also gives me hope for the future in the midst of daily chaos with three kids two and under with #4 on the way. 9 is not so far off!

    My Mom also started me cooking on my own around this age. I’d been baking for quite a while (what kid isn’t motivated to make desserts?) but I remember learning to make a baked ham and tomato dish and breaded chicken around that age. There is such pride in accomplishment when you learn to feed your own family like an adult.

  3. Geoff

    I’LL buy a copy of this as I could probably learn a thing or two from it. I didn’t start taking cooking seriously until my mid 20s but it’s such a joy. I wish it was something I started on earlier.

    • Mystie Winckler

      Don’t be silly; brothers get the book for free. :)