How Not to Motivate: Extrinsic Rewards

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As I reviewed on Friday, In Drive: The Surprising Truth About What Motivates Us, Daniel Pink argues that motivation and satisfaction center on having these three operators in our lives: Autonomy: the ability to have at least some self-direction. Mastery: the ability to improve ourselves in a field or skill. Purpose: the ability to contribute to something bigger than ourselves. It turns out that even science is now demonstrating that people are not purely economically motivated, yet as Pink puts … Read More

5 Days of Organizing Your Hospitality – Day 1: Organize Your Attitude – Simply Convivial

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Day 1: Organize Your Attitude for Hospitality Organize Your Attitude Organize the People Organize the Food Organize Your Preparations Organize Your Evening Hospitality or Entertaining? Hospitality n. the quality or disposition of receiving and treating guests and strangers in a warm, friendly, generous way. Yes, that’s right, part of the very definition of the word hospitality has to do not with your home, but with your attitude, your disposition, your heart. So we begin right at the core. Hospitality is … Read More

Attention: Types & Motivations – Simply Convivial

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Originally posted in January 2010 So we have established that attention is a necessary prerequisite to learning. How, then, do we secure attention from our students? I made up a summary list from both Home Education and The Seven Laws of Teaching: Hold the student accountable to his work without allowing him to redo it. Expect a very little “perfect” work rather than sheets of sloppy work. Give adequate but not overly much time for the work to be accomplished … Read More

Attention: Its Nature and Importance – Simply Convivial

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Originally posted in January 2010 Attention and observation are the primary habits we are going to work on in our upcoming school year. Therefore, I have to gather my wits (fewer than average, since I am sleep deprived) and summarize what this means so I can keep it mind. I was reminded by a passing comment I saw somewhere that John Milton Gregory’s The Seven Laws of Teaching had a chapter on attention, and so I reread that as well … Read More

Real Life – Simply Convivial

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Real life is gathering everyone for circle time to find the toddler is stinky and needs to be changed. Real life is gathering everyone for circle time a second time to be interrupted by a scream and uncontrollable sobs from the preschooler because she almost dropped her binder and a paper fell out. Take a deep breath. Repeat after me, “This is not a big deal. Stay calm. Don’t panic.” Oh, was that for the preschooler or for me? Real … Read More

We Want Open Doors

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Originally written in April 2010, near the end of our first first-grade year. Now we have finished the second first-grader’s year! If it is true that all real education is self-education, then this almost-complete year of “First Grade” has not been such a loss as the partial and skipped and missed check boxes on the lesson plans might lead one to believe. “Therefore, teaching, talk and tale, however lucid or fascinating, effect nothing until self-activity be set up; that is, … Read More

Making a Convivial Home: Lighten Up

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I don’t know if this has ever happened to you, but it has to me often. A parent relates a disobedient or otherwise disciplinable antic of their child, and comments, “I had to leave the room because I couldn’t help laughing.” Nine times out of ten I simply can’t relate; I find myself giving a blank stare or a forced “Heh, heh, yeah.” I almost never have that problem. With a small toddler who is cute but testing defiance, perhaps … Read More

Convivial Home: Now & Later

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Hitting a decade birthday is a good time to pause and reflect, and though mine is still a few months away, I am pausing and reflecting. While I am in the midst of raising children, my parents, in-laws, and their peers are reaching milestones of their own: caring for their parents. It is now not an uncommon conversation to overhear at church functions: the 50’s crowd swapping stories and encouragement about helping their particular parents’ situations. So many different ailments, … Read More

Making a Convivial Home: Unrelenting Fellowship

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I mentioned previously that the Wilsons’ advice helped us get our marriage off to a strong start. The biggest and best piece of advice they gave was to never leave one another while out of fellowship. That isn’t that you can’t leave until you agree, but you can’t leave while you have unconfessed and unforgiven sin between you. The principle is not to let unresolved sin have any place or time in your relationship. It is a high ideal, but … Read More

A Convivial Home: Enjoying Life, Children, and God

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I wasn’t yet tuned into the right questions when I picked up The Sane Woman’s Guide to Raising a Large Family. Knox was a baby, I was sleep-deprived, I thought maybe I could pick up a few new tips to help cope. I don’t remember any new hints or tips. It’s not that they weren’t there. I’m sure if I went back to it now I might be able to add a few things to my repertoire. At the time, … Read More

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